5 Steps To Writing Wedding Vows That Will Make Your Husband Cry

There are a few things we tend to focus, even hyperfocus, on when we’re planning our wedding – obtaining the dress of our wildest dreams, getting a magical venue, making sure the catering is settled, picking out the perfect flowers, planning out a romantic honeymoon, and figuring out the guest list all come to mind.

It’s not at all groundbreaking to say that most brides have quite a bit on their mind when putting together the wedding they’ve been dreaming of for years, to the point where actually savoring the moments of their wedding, and paying attention to the less logistical, more emotional details – like our wedding vow exchange – will often fall by the wayside.

Many will opt for a traditional vow, typically having to do with their faith, which is a beautiful choice. But what about those who’d rather read something they wrote themselves? How do we even begin writing something that will be impactful, memorable, beautiful, and possibly even get our husband to shed a tear? 

Give Yourself Lots of Time To Write 

Long before you even have to stand in front of your husband and your guests and read your vow aloud, give yourself all the time in the world to write one that you’re truly happy with rather than putting it off until the last minute, especially if you haven’t creatively written all that much since your high school English class.

Starting a few months ahead of time will give you the opportunity to write a few different drafts, allowing your words and writing to stew and develop into something you’re really proud of.

Share a Story or Memory of Him

Take this opportunity, the moment when you’re both committing to spend the rest of your life together, to recall a sweet memory or a funny anecdote that sums up your relationship. Think about writing it as if it’s a fictional story, dressing up the phrases, setting the scene, and treating yourself and your almost-husband as the main characters in a love story.

You could write about your very first date, or the first moment you laid eyes on him, or the first time you remember thinking that this man was the one you wanted to marry. Choose a moment from your relationship that feels especially meaningful to reflect on.

Express What You Love Most About Him

There are a million things you love about this man – otherwise you wouldn’t be marrying him! But it’s necessary, as you work on writing a vow that will leave its lasting mark on both him and your guests, that you narrow down that list to a few of his best qualities.

Focus on a few specific attributes you admire, and don’t be afraid to be heartfelt.

You could highlight his ability to always make you laugh, or his deep friendship with you that makes you feel understood, or his strength in the face of life’s challenges that you find admirable. Choose a few attributes that vary, calling attention to his many lovable qualities. Be specific, and don’t be afraid to be heartfelt – if there’s one place to speak from the heart, it’s at your wedding!

Talk About What Your Future Might Hold

Your wedding day is the perfect time to reflect on all the moments that led you here, so take a look back and remember. And of course, it’s a day to live in the moment, to soak up the memories you’ll want to think back on for years.

It’s also a time to think about the future, and your vows are the perfect time to express what you hope your future together will hold. Paint a picture of what’s to come, bringing up whatever you’ve discussed before – whether you want to have children, or move to another city, or build your dream house together. Tell him what you’re most excited about moving towards as you take this huge step of getting married.

Make Promises to Him

Marriage is a promise. It’s a promise to love, comfort, and support your spouse, through good times and bad, to choose them over and over again, to spend your life with them. And you’re making this enormous, life-changing, powerful promise in front of all of your loved ones. 

To wrap up your vow on a genuine, thoughtful note, get specific about what you’re promising your husband as you enter this new phase of life together. This will emphasize how your relationship is changing now that you’re married, starting off the first moments of your marriage with both of you bearing in mind the weight, significance, and beauty of this promise you’re making to one another.

Closing Thoughts

Your wedding day is one you’ll remember for years to come, and writing your own vows is a beautiful way of showing your unique love for your new husband – and it’s sure to cause a few tears of joy to fall!

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