A 5-Minute Call With An Abortion Clinic Changed My Life Forever

I thought my life was over. Ashamed and panicked, I imagined the reactions from my parents, friends, and deeply Christian, conservative college community. I felt trapped, standing at the entrance of a long, dark tunnel with no clue what lay inside or if the light at the end was real—much less worth it. I had always dreamed of becoming a mother, but not like this.  

Abortion suddenly felt like the only way out.  

“You’ve put yourself in this situation—now you have to fix it,” I thought. I quickly dialed the nearest abortion facility and connected with a staffer who recommended a chemical abortion. Yet as she casually described the process, I felt sick to my stomach.

My Catholic beliefs hadn’t stopped me from making the call in a moment of panic, but learning the details was different. The first pill would end my baby’s life; the second would expel him or her from my body. It was horrifying. I couldn’t imagine paying someone hundreds of dollars to do something that would harm my child and bring me unbearable emotional pain.  

But that phone call, despite its panic and dread, became a turning point. It sparked my first moment of clarity since the positive pregnancy test.  

Spoiler alert: An unexpected pregnancy didn’t destroy my dreams. Despite the odds, the fear, and the unknown, I chose life for my daughter, Penelope. Today, I am happily married, a mom of three, and pursuing my master’s in clinical psychology. My hope is to become an anchor for women—especially mothers—navigating life’s hardest challenges.  

Here’s what I hope other women in my shoes can take from my story:  

There Is Light at the End of the Tunnel    

The most important thing to know is this: There is light at the end of the tunnel—and even in the midst of it.  

When I first saw the positive pregnancy test, all I could imagine was a long, dark tunnel with no way out. But looking back, I see now that choosing life for Penelope flipped a switch. That “dark tunnel” wasn’t a trap—it was the most beautiful garden I could have ever imagined.  

Penelope transformed my life. She opened my heart and inspired me to pursue dreams I’d never considered possible. She became my motivation, my muse, and the pride of our growing family. Her existence also drew my husband and me closer together, even though our relationship was just beginning at the time. It wasn’t easy—far from it—but it was worth it.  

For anyone feeling trapped, just know: The early months are by far the hardest. They require courage, determination, and the willingness to ask for help. But once you make it through, you’ll see the light—and I promise, you’ll be okay.  

People Want to Support You—Open Your Heart and Let Them    

At first, I was mortified by the thought of judgment from family, friends, and professors. That fear drove me to call the abortion facility in the first place. But when I opened up to those around me, I discovered something unexpected: love and support.  

My sorority sisters threw me a baby shower, buying me a stroller and other beautiful gifts. Girls I barely knew reached out to help. Moms in my community—many of whom I’d never met—organized a meal train that covered two months of meals. They also showered me with notes of encouragement and offers to help with anything I needed.  

Instead of labeling me as an outcast, they made me feel seen, loved, and supported in ways I never expected.  

Utilize Pregnancy Resource Centers    

Early on, I connected with a local pregnancy resource center. They provided diapers and other material resources, though I didn’t need to rely on them heavily because of my strong support network.  

For other women, these centers can be lifelines. There are nearly 3,000 centers nationwide offering everything from free baby supplies to counseling, parenting classes, financial aid, and long-term support. As Kathleen Wilson, a maternity home founder, puts it: “If you go to an abortion facility, who calls you next week if you need help? There’s nobody. With us, we’re here forever.”  

Don’t Rush into Marriage   

When I learned I was pregnant, Penelope’s father and I weren’t even dating. While tradition might suggest that marriage would “fix” the situation, we knew rushing into an unhealthy relationship wouldn’t benefit our daughter.  

Instead, we chose to take things slow and build our relationship over time. This allowed us to lay a strong foundation for love and marriage. We said our first “I love you” just a month before Penelope was born, got engaged when she was 16 months old, and married shortly before her second birthday. Since then, we’ve welcomed twins, making us a family of five.  

Our careful, deliberate approach gave us a strong bond that I know will benefit our children. Someday, I believe they’ll thank us for it.  

Closing Thoughts

Since Penelope’s birth, I’ve worked with pregnant and postpartum moms, sharing my story to remind them: It’s going to be okay.  

Unexpected pregnancies are undeniably challenging. Fear of judgment, lack of resources, or unstable relationships can make them even harder. But they don’t have to define your life.  

Choosing life brought more blessings, joy, and beauty into my world than I could have ever imagined. I’m grateful I didn’t give in to fear, and I hope my story shows others that they don’t have to, either.  

Julia Smith is a proud mother of 3 and is pursuing her masters in Clinical Psychology, which she hopes to use to serve women in need someday.