How To Become A High Value Woman

The words “high value” when attached to a woman might be met with some raised eyebrows or puzzled looks. What could they mean? Are they meant to suggest that other women lack inherent worth? Is the purpose of them to put women in competition with one another, and to make us feel as if we exist on a scale of most worthy of love to least worthy based on random attributes? It’s understandable that a term like “high value” would spur a few follow-up questions.

The notion of a “high value” woman has nothing to do with elevating some women in order to demean others or with excluding certain women from a club and denying them entry. But it has everything to do with inspiring women to grow, offering them a positive vision, and calling them to a higher standard – all for their own good. 

Every woman is, of course, intrinsically valuable as a human being. At the same time, just as we say that single men looking to find a wife ought to bring something to the table, women should also consider what they can be doing to make their partnership more attractive – how they can cultivate the qualities that will make them the kind of woman that a man will feel lucky to be with and that other women will desire to emulate. The good news? Because it has nothing to do with our immutable qualities, anyone can work to become a “high value” woman – that means you, too.

So what exactly are the attributes of a “high value” woman? What qualities will set a woman apart from others in a positive, inspiring, and favorable way? And how can you grow into that kind of woman? Here are 12 unmistakable qualities of a high value woman.

She Is Gracious and Kind

All it takes is a few minutes scrolling through X to know that there are far too many petty, toxic, immature people out there. Between the comment wars, angry subtweets, and constant attempts at canceling someone new, a high value woman is a breath of fresh air. Rather than focusing on having the best hot takes, concern yourself with treating others with kindness and behaving maturely and graciously in a sea of insanity. Not only is this a mark of a high value woman, but it’s also far better for your own mental health. And there’s no doubt that you’ll stand out immediately.

She Is Driven

Every woman will have her own unique aspirations. Some women might want nothing more than to be stay-at-home moms, while others dream of opening their own business or getting a degree. Some want to be both mothers and professionals. High value women are self-motivated, hardworking, and diligent. Whatever your goals are, see each day as an opportunity to build toward something rather than waiting around for a guy to give you purpose, and you’ll be far more likely to catch the attention of a guy who shares a similar vision. 

She Has Standards

A high value woman doesn’t feel compelled to go on a date with just anyone, even if she has been on her own for a while. She would rather stay single and fill up her life with friends, hobbies, and work that mean something to her than date the first random guy to give her a modicum of attention, regardless of her own interest in him. She’ll wait for the five course meal rather than fill up on junky snack food. Work to have a clear vision of what you desire in a partner, a checklist that you’re secure enough not to compromise on. This isn’t about being unrealistic and being unwilling to date a guy who doesn’t match a height requirement; it’s about having healthy standards that will keep you from getting distracted and wasting time with a guy who isn’t a match.

She Is Smart with Money

Everywhere you look these days, something is being advertised to you. A new $40 water bottle, an $80 foundation, a $300 espresso machine. Click “add to cart” enough times, and suddenly, you’re spending more than you ever meant to. A high value woman is wise with her finances. She doesn’t shell out money for the latest fad, but instead invests only in what she knows she needs and what she knows she’ll use. Be cautious of impulse buying, and pay less attention to trends and more to quality.

She Is Health Conscious

There is no single body type that a high value woman has. She might be petite. She might be curvy. She might be somewhere in between. Whatever your natural body type is, choose to treat it well. Be thoughtful about what you eat and ensure you’re getting a balanced diet without restricting. Be careful about the medications and supplements that you put into your body. Exercise regularly and aim for your body’s best over a specific number on the scale.

She Is Always Growing

High value women don’t fall into the trap of believing that they’re ever “done” growing. They know there will always be more skills to hone, more lessons to learn, more areas to strengthen. But this doesn’t overwhelm them – they actually enjoy the prospect of always improving. Begin to see yourself as a constant work in progress, and rather than letting that make you feel insecure, defeated, or bad about yourself, find excitement when you think about the woman you can become, the woman you might be a year from now, or 10 years from now. Your future self will thank you for planting a seed today.

She Is Humble and Aware of Her Weaknesses

Every single person alive has unique weaknesses, internal battles to fight, struggles to work through – yes, that’s true of high value women, too. And a high value woman is humble enough to see that and acknowledge her shortcomings. She takes responsibility for her faults. Being willing to admit that you’re imperfect, fallible, and in the wrong sometimes is uncomfortable, but it will instantly make you a high value woman.

She Is a Good Communicator

You won’t catch a high value woman saying something like, “I shouldn’t have to tell you. You should just know how I’m feeling.” She knows how to communicate. While it’s true that a good partner will do their best to be in tune with what you’re going through, you can’t expect someone to read your mind. Be willing to communicate your thoughts, needs, and expectations clearly and kindly. 

She Is Soft and Loving

We live in a world that can often be harsh, mean, and uncharitable. At times, it almost seems that everyone is clamoring to see who can be the most cruel. But this isn’t true of a high value woman, who instead aspires to be soft and loving in the face of anger. Seek to be a woman who nurtures, cares for, and gives life to others, a woman whom people feel better for having been around, and you’ll be well on your way to becoming a high value woman.

She Is a Problem Solver

As long as we’re alive, there will always be another fire to put out, another issue to figure out, another dilemma that pops up out of nowhere. High value women aren’t spared. They’re well acquainted with the storms of life and choose to become skilled problem solvers rather than waiting for someone else to fix everything for them, or worse, letting themselves lament their circumstances eternally. High value women understand that they can’t control what happens to them, but they can control how they react to it. This isn’t to say you shouldn’t ever accept help or input, but it’s important to become a woman who’s competent, capable, and can handle what life throws at her.

She Knows How To Look Nice

Despite what we might hear in various corners of the internet, it’s really not wrong for a woman to want to look attractive. While high value women don’t focus solely on their exterior appearance, they still know the importance of looking presentable – good, even. We’re definitely not advocating for refusing to set foot outside without a full face of makeup, but simply to embrace your femininity. You’re worth putting effort into. Dress for your body type, come up with a simple yet lovely makeup routine, and find a signature perfume. The confidence boost you’ll get will be unmatched.

She Looks To Wiser Women

Whether or not we realize it, we’re always allowing others to speak into our lives. The friends we keep, the people we follow on social media, and the influencers or celebrities we look up to – all of them affect the way we view ourselves and the world. A high value woman knows this and is careful about whom she gives the opportunity to influence her. Surround yourself with wise, kind, thoughtful, virtuous women, whether in person or online. 

Closing Thoughts

We’re all born with inherent value, but there’s still so much that we can do to widen that. A high value woman – the kind of woman that a man feels lucky to be with and other women are inspired by – is something that every woman has the potential to be. It’s not an exclusive club that only some are deemed worthy of, but an opportunity extended to anyone who chooses to do the work to become one.

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