How To Get A Guy To Notice You Wherever You Are

You wouldn’t say that your issue is getting a guy to be interested in dating you – you’ve gotten enough invitations over the years, crushes that liked you back, and matches on Hinge to feel confident that once you’re on his radar, the right guy will like you.

Instead, what your struggle is is getting a guy to notice you to begin with. Getting him to look your way when you’re not safely within the confines of an app where everyone is looking for a romantic connection. Being the first one to initiate contact without being too obvious.

So how do you get a guy to look your way in the first place? How can you put yourself on his radar without seeming desperate or pushy? How do you will his gaze to wander in your direction, and make it so that he likes what he sees? Let’s break down how you can get a guy to notice you by situation.

If You’re at a Party

Whether you’re in a sea of faces at a huge party or in a relatively small group at a gathering your friend threw together, it’s not always easy to stand out from the crowd. You don’t want to draw too much attention to yourself and seem desperate, but you also don’t want to fade into the background and become part of the wallpaper.

A few things to try? First, try to make eye contact. Eye contact is intimate. It allows us to have a “moment” with the person we’re sharing it with and has been shown to build attraction. Second, if you do catch his eye, make sure to smile. This communicates to him that he’ll be well-received and that you’re someone who interacts instead of waiting for him to do everything. Third, if the party is more of a group setting, laugh at his jokes, if he tells any. A guy will instantly take note of a woman who finds him funny.

If You’re at the Gym

The gym is notoriously nerve-wracking, overwhelming, and intimidating. Aside from any body insecurities that come into play, everyone seems to be in their own world at the gym, listening to music, pumping out a workout, and then getting on their way. Still, you’ve taken note of this guy a few times now, and you’re wondering how to get his attention in a space that encourages people to focus on themselves.

The best way to get on his radar? Ask him for help. Ask him if he knows how a certain machine works or if he can spot you. Guys enjoy feeling like they have something to offer, and this immediately gives him that opportunity. Asking for his help is a totally natural way to open up the line of communication and makes it so that you don’t have to be embarrassed if the conversation ends up stopping there. 

If You’re at a Coffee Shop

Ah, the coffee shop crush. This is a popular one for students who frequent the same cafe and those who regularly stop by the same coffee shop on their way to work. Eventually, you begin to see some of the same faces there. And one of them might belong to a guy who you wish would notice you.

If you happen to be in line together, ask him what he recommends. He’ll enjoy his opinion being asked for, and this opens the door for another conversation down the line (whether on the same day or the next time you see him) as to whether you liked his recommendation. If you’re seated near each other, establish connecting by making eye contact first and then ask him what he’s drinking or reading. This gives you an opportunity to learn something about him and makes him more likely to return the interest by asking you a question. 

If You’re Out with Friends

We’ve all heard it said that when a guy sees a group of girls out together, even if he’s attracted to one of them, he’s less likely to approach her for fear of being turned down in front of an audience. So what should you do if you’re hanging out at a bar with a few friends and you happen to spot a guy you want to get to know?

If you can, try to break off from your friends – not too much to the point where you totally disappear, but enough so that if the guy notices you too, he sees an opening to come talk to you. This might look like going up to the area of the bar where he’s sitting on your own instead of as a group, and sticking around to chat with the bartender while your drinks are being made. 

Glance over at him, make eye contact, smile, and look away after a few beats. Then, look back at him. If he does the same, he’s probably interested. If he doesn’t start the conversation at that point, offer your name or ask him what he’s sipping on or make a comment about the baseball game on TV. Find a way to begin the dialogue that feels natural.

If You’re Working

Whether you work as a barista, at a front desk, or as a waitress, if you work with customers at all, you’re interacting with people all day long. Eventually, you’re bound to come across a customer who sparks your interest. But how do you shift from a work mindset to one of romance? How do you get a guy to notice you when you’re technically on the clock?

If you’re in the service industry, give him a little something on the house (that won’t get you in trouble, of course). Make his drink a little extra special and let him know. If you’re at a front desk, offer him some water or tea. Show him favor and go the extra mile for him.

If You’re Coworkers

First off, we’d generally advise that you carefully consider the implications of dating a coworker. It’s totally normal for a guy at your job to catch your attention, but it doesn’t always mean you should go for it. It’s important to weigh out a few things: whether this is just a passing crush or not, how a relationship could affect your workplace dynamics, what might happen if things don’t work out, and whether it would impact your job at all.

That being said, if you still come out on the side of “go for it,” one simple way to get his attention is by complimenting him on a job well-done. This immediately introduces you to him as someone positive (don’t we all have better feelings toward people who’ve complimented us?) and either allows him to return the compliment or opens up the opportunity to strike up a conversation.

Closing Thoughts

Sometimes, the stars just don’t perfectly align, and a guy doesn’t notice you naturally. With just a little bit of work on your end, though, this can be easily rectified. No matter where you are or what you’re doing, there’s always a little something you can do to shift a guy’s attention in your direction.

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