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Lana Del Rey’s Marriage Shattered Hypergamy And The "Wall,” And It’s A White Pill For All Of Us

The queen of melancholic girl pop casually got married at 39—in a $400 dress—to an alligator tour guide named Jeremy Dufrene. Here's why that's a white pill for all the modern-day romantics.

By Carmen Schober3 min read
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When it comes to doing things her way, Lana Del Rey never misses. Her haunting musical style is in a class of its own, she loves a selfie with her Sig Sauer P365, and she's never conformed to mainstream feminist narratives. She's even gone as far as to publicly question the movement's so-called “inclusivity.”

“I had books thrown at me in San Francisco by liberal female groups," she shared in an interview, detailing the ways she's been attacked, verbally and physically, for her views. "I’ve been punched in the face in Brooklyn. Ten years ago, mentally I badly needed some beauty to come out of the chaos.” 

And in her latest move, with a net worth of $30 million, Rey chose to marry a man whose most viral moment involved a Facebook post basically saying "f**k that" to the vax mandates.

What’s happening here? It’s not just the most recklessly romantic flex we’ve seen this year. And it's not just perfectly on brand for Lana, either. From her “Blue Jeans” ballads to her wistful odes to California back roads, she's always romanticized a gritty, vintage version of America. And now she’s married a man who fits seamlessly into that narrative—just a little swampier.

No, I'm telling you, what we're seeing is a total disruption of the hypergamy narrative that dominates certain male-centric corners of the internet. And it’s a white pill moment for women everywhere who’ve been told their desirability is gone the moment they turn 30.

The “Wall” is Tumbling Down

In Red Pill/Manosphere culture, there’s a long-standing obsession with “The Wall”—the idea that women lose their looks and appeal after turning 30 for various reasons but mainly because of their supposed lack of vitality and fertility.

According to this mindset, women over 30 are basically out of the dating game, at least when it comes to securing a happy marriage. Because Red Pill reasoning says that no healthy, masculine man would ever want a woman who isn't young, fertile, and impressionable.

They don't say it that bluntly, obviously, but that's the main idea—that the older the woman is, the more life experience she has, plus all the pesky opinions and preferences that come with it, and those should be avoided at all costs.

But Lana, at 39, along with a growing number of women, has completely blown that idea out of the swamp. Not only is she as beautiful as she was when she was younger, she's arguably even more attractive now. I mean, did you see her at Coachella last year? Is the wall in the room with us right now??

Haters can say it's all just Ozempic and plastic surgery and being rich, but the real question is, does that matter? Honestly, if a 39-year-old woman can radiate enough health and beauty to catch the eye of the man she wants, does it really matter how she does it?

Maybe so, but the strength of the "wall" argument has definitely taken a few hits as women like Lana, Aubrey Plaza, Alexandra Daddario, and Margot Robbie get married and have children in their late thirties and look stunning doing it.

It's Good News for Everyone

The Red Pill bros will undoubtedly disagree with my assessment, but isn't it a good thing that droves of women in their 30s and beyond are living their best lives, investing in their health, and taking advantage of modern beauty technologies to maintain (or even enhance) their looks? It means being “hot at 39” isn’t just a delusional female fantasy.

Thanks to fitness routines, cosmetic advancements, and a growing focus on overall wellness, women in their 30s and 40s are successfully beauty-maxxing, and it makes all parties happier. Lana’s radiance at 39 proves that “the wall” is a myth, and she’s not the only one debunking it. 

Hypergamy, Who?

Then there’s the whole hypergamy thing. Again, if you’ve been anywhere near the Red Pill dudes online, you know the drill: women are supposedly programmed to "marry up," seeking men with higher status, wealth, and power.

But here comes Lana, with her millions, her awards, and her insane artistic prowess, marrying a guy who gives alligator tours and drops spicy anti-vax takes online. And we love that for her.

What this proves is what many women have been shouting about all along, which is that women actually prioritize a deep emotional connection, mutual respect, and—gasp—traditional values over the chase for more material status.

Hopefully, this is the ultimate white pill for the defeated men who’ve been told they don’t stand a chance at finding love unless they’re raking in six figures. Lana is showing us that love isn’t about status or wealth but about deeper connections and shared values. Hypergamy? We don’t know her.

Charisma Over Chad

Lana’s husband is a real-life example of how charisma, confidence, and living by your own principles can top superficial measures of success. He didn’t have to be a "Chad," flaunting a six-pack and a six-figure salary. He’s got guts, values, and a bit of mystery—and that was enough to catch Lana’s heart. 

It’s a hopeful message for men who worry that they have to meet impossible standards to find a partner, or who believe the lie that most women are clout-chasing gold diggers. Thank God that's not true. They’re just looking for a spark of real chemistry and a genuine connection.

The Myth of Impossible Standards for Men

And it’s not just about rejecting the hypergamy narrative; it’s also about rethinking what makes a man attractive today. We’re living in a time where status markers aren’t the only indicators of desirability. Clearly, some women find political alignment, shared values, and confidence way more attractive than just money or supermodel looks.

So, men, if you’ve ever been told you need to be six feet tall, make six figures, and have a six-pack to even think about landing a woman, think again. What really gets a woman's attention isn't money or fame—it's confidence and conviction. In today’s world, that’s way rarer than another Chad flaunting his abs.

Lana’s marriage proves that if you’ve got the guts to live authentically, you can still land the prize.

A Love Story for Modern Romantics

Ultimately, this marriage is a comforting reminder to women that turning 30 doesn’t mean you’re “over,” and it’s an optimistic reminder to men that status and wealth aren’t the be-all and end-all of attractiveness. More people are seeing that love, respect, and emotional connection are what matter most.

So, here’s to Lana for not just breaking the mold—but smashing it. With her $400 dress, her alligator tour guide husband, and her undeniable glow, Lana Del Rey just redefined what love, beauty, and success look like in 2024. And we are so here for it.