The Wife Treatment: How To Change Your Relationship After You Get Married

Everyone talks about giving your boyfriend the "wife treatment," but what about giving your new husband the ultimate wife experience? How can you change your relationship, so it feels like you've entered a new chapter?

Here are the top six ways on how to do this.

1. Make Extra Effort with the In-Laws

One of the best things about marriage is the joining of two families. In-laws can play an important role in the future of your marriage, so take the time to really connect with your new family.

You could organize a girly lunch date with his mom, sisters, aunts, and female cousins to strengthen that much-needed female connection every new bride needs. You could also make an effort to spend one-on-one time with each of his family members. It doesn't have to be anything significant; it could be something as simple as going for a walk, running to the grocery store, or offering to help around the house to get some extra bonding time with each person.

Initiating contact with his family sets the precedence that you’re now your husband's wife.

Initiating contact with his family sets the precedence that you’re now your husband's wife, and you want to strengthen the bond you have with them. It says a lot about your character and your level of commitment to your new marriage.

2. Cook His Favorite Meals 

Love is a verb, and one way you can show your new husband that you love him is by cooking his favorite meals. You don't have to cook for him every night, but making an extra effort at the start of your new marriage will make it feel like things have changed. Also, when you give unconditionally, it leaves room for him to reciprocate, so don't be surprised if he returns the loving gesture!

3. Make Your Bridal Glow Last

Your bridal glow doesn't have to stop once you're married, so make an extra effort to nurture your beauty even after the wedding. Continue with your skincare routine to maintain healthy glowing skin. Keep working out and eating healthy. Keep getting massages and facials. And dress up around the house. When you continue to take good care of yourself, not only will you look amazing, but you will feel it too. 

Continue to take good care of yourself so you look and feel amazing.

4. Frame Your Wedding Photos

Relive the most important day of your life, every day, by framing your precious wedding photos.

Don't just buy any old frame, though; invest in beautifully crafted frames unique to your style and home décor. Is your home modern, traditional, boho, or somewhere in between? Vera Wang has some gorgeous classic frames for the more traditional style, and Anthropologie has beautiful chic frames for a more contemporary or edgy style.

5. Keep the Passion Alive

The honeymoon phase is the most fun and exciting time. The relationship is awesome, the sex is amazing, and you feel like you're on cloud nine.

Keep the fiery passion going at the beginning of your marriage by being intentional about making time for intimacy. Make yourself a list of rituals you use to get yourself in the mood so you're ready whenever he is. Because honestly, we all know that women tend to get in our heads a lot more than men do, and it can really put a damper on our sex life! You can also have fun exploring new sexy things with your husband, and it can be as simple as seducing him during movie night. We've got a whole list of ideas here.

6. Schedule Weekly Marriage Meetings

When you're a newly married couple, a great way to keep on top of your relationship is by holding weekly marriage meetings. They can be a great ritual for connection and allow you to bring up any minor worries before they become bigger issues. 

Marriage meetings allow you to connect and to bring up any minor worries before they become bigger issues. 

It's also a great way to keep up to date with your spouse to make sure you're both on the same page and striving for the same things. You can cover topics such as finances, household duties, your appreciation for one another, and how you're both feeling emotionally for that week.

Schedule your weekly meetings when you're both feeling relaxed (e.g., Sunday night) and allow yourselves 30 minutes to get anything off your chest. Read our article here for more tips on how to hold a peaceful and productive marriage meeting.

Closing Thoughts

The secret to a successful marriage is to put your spouse first. True love compounds, and when you're intentional about making your spouse and your marriage a priority, you will reap the benefits for years to come.

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