This Reddit Page Is Full Of People Asking If They’re Ugly And It's Depressing

Even some of the healthiest women are told to lose weight. Men are deemed unattractive if they're "too short" or lack muscles. Everyone is feeling the pressure from the media to meet the current beauty standards. We've witnessed our pretty friends gain privileges that some of us can only dream of and naturally attract people like moths to a flame.

A lot of us were bullied growing up for something we couldn't control. I was called fat after gaining weight following an injury that left me homebound for months. My best friend was made fun of for her acne, and a classmate with a skin condition felt self-conscious about the bumps on his face after people would cruelly point them out.

Now, thanks to our childhood experiences and platforms like Instagram, TikTok, and television, body dysmorphia is at an all-time high. 11% of women and 25% of men reported a clinical risk of muscle dysmorphia. In a survey of 13,996 adults, almost one in three health club users revealed symptoms of body dysmorphia, and 70% of them had an eating disorder. Among 15,624 American high school students, 30% of males desired weight gain. Body image is one of the top four concerns for young women.

People Ask If They're Ugly

The subreddit "amiugly" is exactly what it sounds like. People head to the forum to ask strangers for honest opinions regarding their looks. I know these individuals posted their pictures in a public domain, but I will blur their faces out of respect.

Naturally, some posters garnered really hurtful comments. A 33-year-old woman showed a photo of herself and wrote, "I was bullied and called ugly for my teeth, as a kid (33)."

One of the top responses read, "It almost looks like in some of these pictures you went out of your way to make yourself look worse."

"You're not even trying dude," someone said.

A Reddit user asked, "Why do you take so many pictures where you look like someone's sleep paralysis demon? Surely you know they don't make you look good."

Another man of Asian descent posted a selfie, asking, "I try to be more confident, but I can be self conscious at times. Am I [ugly]?"

Luckily, a lot of the responses were helpful, and many offered helpful advice. A few weren't so kind. They told him, "Yeah, you're ugly, oh well, so am I," and "You're ugly, gang. Grow out a beard and try to grow out your hair."

But what's strange is witnessing the onslaught of pretty women honestly asking if they're ugly. Strangers will accuse them of fishing for compliments. For most of them, their body dysmorphic disorder had gotten so bad that they could no longer judge their own appearance. A woman (who I felt was attractive) posted a series of images of herself on the subreddit. "I’m 29 female and I have no idea what I look like," she wrote. "My friends and family say I look the same, but each photo looks different to me." Redditors had to tell her that she was certainly not ugly.

Then, there are concerned teenagers wondering if they're ugly.

These posts reflect how adolescents in modern society are grappling with their self-image. We're seeing them ask for validation from internet strangers; they're looking up how to "looksmaxx" on Google.

In a way, the forum is a refuge for individuals who aren't seen as "attractive" by society. Sure, they get hateful comments, but they also get kind and loving responses from random Redditors who see the beauty within them. When a 19-year-old female asked about her "big nose," someone said, "There is no such thing as a nose bringing down femininity, a big nose on a girl is great as it can add great definition to her face with the sides of the bridge, and the bridge itself can be very pretty and a great feature. Do not hate a feature that works well with all your others to create your pretty face. Your freckles, nose and hair are all amazing."

I've also read a lot of constructive feedback that I think, if taken into consideration by the posters, would help them in their glow-up. Weight loss and going to the gym were commonly suggested, as were better haircuts and skincare routines.

Nevertheless, the thousands of posts in r/amiugly reflect the insecurities that have taken hold of society. There's still a silver lining amid the barrage of rude comments. It's the empathy and kindness of anonymous strangers, their thoughtful recommendations, and their support toward the individuals suffering in a hideous society that makes them forget their inner beauty.

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